It seems that every time I go to my mailbox, I have a new wedding invitation. Whether it be from close friends, cousins, co-workers, or my mother’s best friend, wedding invites are ubiquitous in my life right now. I am 25 years old, and apparently this is only the beginning. Already in 2012, I have been invited to five weddings and asked to be part of the wedding party in three. I’m exhausted just thinking about that.
I have been to a few weddings in my twenty five years, but the bride or groom were never the same age as me (or younger!) It is surprising to me how many people are getting married and just rubbing it into the single person’s face. “Plus one?” Is that sarcasm?
Not only are weddings annoying, they are also extremely expensive. I will spend over $3,000 dollars this year alone just traveling to different locations, tux rentals, and don’t forget the engagement and wedding gifts. I wonder if there is a place we can write all of this off on our taxes?
I know that I sound bitter and cynical, and I’m sorry. I don’t mean to be! I am actually very happy for my friends and relatives who have found the loves of their lives and wish to include me in the celebration. I’m just tired of being that guy standing at the open bar, eating free food, and double fisting vodka tonics all night. Alone.
In speaking with some other single people, I realized that I am not alone in this thought. So, how do we cope with our single life when everyone we know is getting married?
Honestly, there is no simple answer that I can tell you. We have to remember that our day will come – and that when it does, these friends, cousins, co-workers, and friends of our moms will all be present to share our special day with us. Right now we have to grin and bear it, and give our love and support, because that’s what we’re going to want on our wedding day.
So, go to Bed, Bath, & Beyond and pick out a knife set. Spend some money on a great outfit. And smile. Because our future husband or wife is out there, waiting for us. You never know, they could be at the open bar at the wedding, feeling the same way we are. So grab a drink and go say hi.