HELLO FROM THE OTHER SIDE 

WHAT I'VE LEARNED FROM BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH JAMES FOR ONE YEAR 


SOMETHING WORTH FIGHTING FOR 

My boyfriend and I have been together for a full 90 days, and in most scenarios when you are trying to get used to or adjust to something, many experts say 90 days is all it takes. 

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You may notice this post will be void of any Outback Steakhouse references. That's because I'm James' boyfriend, Joe.

On James' birthday, our friend Kelly made the great suggestion that for our one year anniversary, a post should be written by me to contribute to James’ blog so readers can hear from this mystery man James has been writing about for the past year.

James is not my first relationship, but he is certainly my favorite. What I fell for were:

1. His eyes

2. His humor

3. His zero-bullshit way of interacting with people 


On the contrary, all three of these things can also get him in trouble... but that's what keeps things interesting and lively!

As James has said in many of his posts, it wasn’t always rainbows and butterflies. We are both very stubborn and have very set personalities and ways of doing things. But some of my favorite moments are the ones where we find yet another thing in common. It’s usually the smallest of things, but we both always have this moment of “Wow!” when it happens. It goes to show that no matter how different you are, you can always find common ground to lay a good foundation.

What I’ve learned this past year from our relationship is just that — it’s ours. It’s easy to compare it to other couples’, but our relationship is ours and that’s what makes it special and unique. We will reach milestones at our own pace and on our own terms without expiration's (...pun intended) or deadlines attached. All you need to do is love, respect and communicate with each other and everything will fall into place as it should.

The stakes are high, the water’s rough, but this love is ours.


I love you, James. Thanks for an amazing year, and to many more!

GETTING USED TO SOMEBODY 

I thought the first month was going to be the hardest because it was something so different and new, but as it turns out, maintaining a relationship is hard work and it doesn’t stop after 30 days.

MAKING ADJUSTMENTS

On January 8th, I went on what seems like my thirtieth Tinder date. Like the preceding 29 other dates, we met up at a bar for a few quick drinks during happy hour.